At the heart of any Choo Yilin narrative, is above all, love.
And with love comes the second instalment of Heritage Stories. We speak with Tan Kheng Hua: mother, veteran of Singapore theatre, award-winning actress and producer; and her spirited daughter, Lim Shi-An.
Together, they welcome us into their most special space: Home.
From the very first step into their Joo Chiat Shophouse, their abode spoke volumes of their expressive characters. Vibrant colours decked the walls, tasteful wood furniture projected a warmth throughout the space, and personal touches of portraits and trinkets offered us a glimpse into their shared passion for the Arts.. There is a story behind them all, and we are excited to share them with you today.
Perched comfortably on original 1970s sofas from Kheng Hua’s grandmother, the tales unfolded naturally.
The colour of the wood that you see here is in memory of the wooden table that my brother and I used to sit at during Chinese tuition. The grilles I have now are similar to the ones you’d see at my mother’s home - my younger brother came up with this permutation of the grilles. So I think about this house as very much like a living museum of our lives.
A lot of furniture here is either stolen (from relatives), picked up or set pieces from shows. The pieces I’ve bought, have moved with me from my first house.
And then Shi-An became a sort of teenager (laughs) she’s like an old soul; so we made some little renovations. This is like the third incarnation. After the renovation, we made this entire wing and it's basically Shi-An’s ‘home’.
Tell us about your favourite part of your home
Shi-An: I have a staircase inside my room, and there’s like a living area and all. I have my own space within my home. But to be honest I don’t utilise it as well as one would think even though it is a very nice space because I just spend a lot of time with my mother sitting here (in the living room). The living room is like the most open part of the house so we’re just drawn to it more.
Kheng Hua: We’re very home-y people, we’re at home a lot. I love to be at home.
Shi-An: Yeah, I always bring my friends home!
Kheng Hua: If people wanna see me, I’d say ‘hey, come over’, and they all know me (and what I'm like), so they’d basically just come over. I’ve had Sandra Riley Tang stand outside and go ‘Kheng! Kheng! Are you home?’ and I’ll be like ‘Yes! Come in!’ (laughs)
Describe your relationship as Mother-Daughter
Kheng Hua: I love spending time with Shi-An and we can spend time doing like everything. All sorts of stuff like even sit around and not doing anything, and I like to hang out with my family. But you know, you still got to be a parent, you got to make sure that their eyeballs are on the right things.
Shi-An: (smiling cheekily) Our relationship is definitely unusual! I always find it difficult to explain to my friends because it’s quite rare. Well, firstly it’s because something that bonds us very deeply is that we share the same passion, which is theatre. It is really what makes us so super close because other than just daily life that we can discuss anytime, we really share a passion for the arts and that’s something we can discuss anywhere, anytime. It doesn’t have to be on a mother-daughter level, it can be just on a person-to-person level because we can just discuss it as a topic. We’re much closer I think, than the average. I think our relationship is very peaceful and connected because we respect and love each other not just as parent and child but as friends and my person. And chemistry.
Was it the same type of relationship between Kheng Hua and Shi-An’s Popo (grandmother)? That sense of evolved closeness?
Kheng Hua: I think the love between me and my mum, and the fact that my mum is very essential to me, is the same. I love her a lot, but my mum is very traditional and her way of showing love is very different. She basically just cooks and then you eat (laughs). We don’t expect her to sit down and give us advice. It’s that sort of parents where they think their children know better, but their job is to cook and to make sure that when we were growing up we were well taken care of. Even until today, she’s like that with the grandchildren too. And Shi-An loves her popo too.
If you could pick a word or phrase that would best describe each other, what would it be?
Kheng Hua: Shi-An.
Shi-An: I would say for my mother, the word is definitely passionate, and that’s like a quality I really, really like, which I don’t have to the same extent. But that’s just my character; her passion is something that makes me feel comfortable in life. I like that energy around.
When do you feel like the best version of yourself?
Kheng Hua: Shi-An always brings out the best things in me. And I’m very flawed, but with Shi-An and a handful of other people, they make me feel happy with myself. They also are people I respect, which is very important with me. I also am very curious about what they think about things, and I always find their thoughts and their attitudes things that add to my world. I think my character is such that I always need to be going forward and somehow Shi-An always, not in a didactic way, allows me to see her go through life. It kinda expands my world and I see things in a different way. She makes my world bigger and nicer.
Shi-An: For me, it’s not like I’m always a good person when I’m with my Mom, definitely not. But what I consider to be a very good version of myself, is when I’m completely honest, and that is something that definitely comes out when I’m with my mother. So maybe that shows some bad facets of myself as well, but the fact that I can be completely vulnerable with her is to me, what I would consider, the best version of myself.
3 things you value the most?
Kheng Hua: Oh number one for me is peace.
Shi-An: I think same. (laughs)
Kheng Hua: We’re real consensus builders, we’ll be like ‘oh, two people are getting angry at each other, time to back away!’
Shi-An: All I can think of is family.
Kheng Hua: And love.
Peace, Family and Love - is that what “coming home” stands for, as well?
Kheng Hua: Absolutely. For me, when everything gets me down outside, I really want to come home, and the minute I come home I feel peaceful. I’m very lucky. And it’s not just this home, it’s like my mum -I’m really close to her and when I go back home there, I feel very peaceful as well. I’m so thankful that I grew up with a hub of peace that I could always go back to whenever everything out there is going crazy. So I always had somewhere to come back and I want Shi-An to know that she always has a place to come back where nobody’s going to judge her, she can wear whatever she wants or nothing at all (laughs). And do whatever she wants to do with her time, at home. And that it’s just gonna be like that, at home.
Shi-An: Coming home…is also unadulterated comfort, that’s the genuine feeling that I get when I come home.
What are your hopes and dreams for Shi-An as she blossoms into adulthood?
Kheng Hua: It’s the same hope and dream I’ve always wanted for her. I want her to be happy but I want her to contribute to the world in a way that will make her happy and will make the world better. I have a concept and that is to follow your joy. You have to follow your joy because if every decision that you make follows your joy, you’ll always feel more confident.
Shi-An: I think that it’s a good goal that my mother just wants me to be happy and to do something for the world as opposed to having a specific goal or route to take.
Was it a difficult decision for Shi-An to move out of her Shophouse Home, and into her University Hall because you two are so close, and home is so important to both of you?
Kheng Hua: It’s also important to have an evolved sense of closeness. Like ‘what is closeness?’ I think honesty, and the ability or need to share; I feel that constantly with Shi-An and she knows this. So let's say, if I’m offered a big role overseas for like 6 months, I’d say bye, but I have absolute faith that we’ll still be close. I would say that if the same thing happened to her, and as a mother, if I said that you’re not allowed to go “because I need you here with me”, then we’re not close anymore already. It breaks everything.
Shi-An: I think learning to be independent is a good thing, so no, not at all. I think we have a lot of faith in the fact that we are close and that we will always be. So no matter like where I am, it’s no longer a physical thing. Home becomes a feeling; it’s not tied to a tangible space.
The Shophouse Jade Collection embodies the spirit of this sentiment - that we can carry our “home” -a place that is so close to our hearts, a place that knows us inside out, one where we can unabashedly be ourselves - with us wherever we go.
Warmed by their genuine closeness, we invited Kheng Hua and Shi-An to style one another as a memento of homecoming before Shi-An moves away to University next week.
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